10 ways NOT to be a good husband and a good father

1. BE SELFISH: Ignore their requests, but make sure they don’t ignore yours. 
2. BE ABSENT: Don’t prioritize or schedule your time with your kids, like a family movie night, or with your wife, like a date night.
3. BE DISTRACTED: For the few hours you have when you arrive home, don’t turn off your iphone or ignore the TV or close your computer or put down your magazine.
4. BE BORING: Don’t play with your kids or have fun with your wife. Don’t play catch, dance, wrestle, tickle or laugh.
5. BE IGNORANT: Don’t ask how they’re doing, how they’re feeling, what they’re thinking, what’s wrong, what they’re into or what they’d like to do if they had a choice.
6. BE SILENT: Don’t talk, stare at a screen. Don’t ask questions, send a text. Don’t answer questions, let them figure it out.
7. BE RUSHED: Be too busy to pray with them in the morning before you leave and for them at night before they sleep. And be too busy to read them the Bible or a book and to answer their questions and teach them.
8. BE STUBBORN: Refuse to take advice, to make the right decision, to admit you’re wrong or to ask for forgiveness.
9. BE UNREALISTIC: Expect too much and set unattainable standards.
10. BE INCOSISTENT: Discipline your children one day, but not the next; correct their behavior one day, but ignore it the next. Tell your wife you love her one day, but criticize her the next. Show affection to your family one day, but be distant the next.